What To Do If You Suspect Abuse
When a child discloses sexual abuse, parents experience a multitude of emotions. Feelings of anger, guilt, fear and sadness often merge with memories of past childhood traumas. Although this time can be stressful and worrisome, the child needs special understanding and support. These guidelines may be helpful:
What to say if a child "hints" or discloses abuse
- Listen. Be calm and supportive. Try hard not to show feelings of frustration or helplessness; the child is closely watching your reactions.
- Follow the child's lead. Say "Tell me what happened," and let the child use his or her own words. If he stops talking, don't push for more details.
- Believe. Let the child know that telling was the right thing to do. He or she may feel frightened and confused and need assurance of your support, no matter what happens.
- Report any suspicion of abuse by calling 1-800-4-A-CHILD (National Abuse Hotline), a local law enforcement agency or a school resource officer.
Don't
- Panic or overreact
- Pressure the child
- Confront the offender
- Blame the child
